Why I Believe: Evidence Fifty-Seven: The Most Important Truths of the Universe Entrusted to a Lad–Along With the Charge to Disseminate Them to the World and He Pulled It Off©

101 Reasons Why I Believe Joseph Smith Was a Prophet of God:

Evidence Fifty-Seven:

The Most Important Truths of the Universe Entrusted to a Lad–Along With the Charge to Disseminate Them to the World and He Pulled It Off© 

Recently I quoted Neal A. Maxwell about a youthful blind spot–an “experience gap.”  (See “Living Philosophies” blog “Apostolic Counsel to the Young: Understand the "Experience Gap,” 2 September 2018.) But that is not the whole story, as most youth are almost universally aware. Elsewhere in his writings, Elder Maxwell writes about the other side of the newly minted coin. He observes the “frequency in history with which the young have done so much, so ably, so well, so soon,” and cites Benjamin Disraeli’s generalization that “Almost everything that is great has been done by youth.” Elder Maxwell continues:

While the lack of previous experience handicaps youth, previous experience can also hold hostage those who are older, preventing us from having or appreciating fresh experiences that could help us to restructure more correctly our understanding of the nature of the world and of life.(1)

Elder Maxwell cites the exquisite example of the youthful Joseph Smith. It is not uncommon for Church leaders to speak of young Joseph’s amazing spiritual contributions and ever expanding impact on the religious world. But, the insights which Elder Maxwell draws from Joseph’s earliest spiritual experiences–the First Vision and the recovery of the plates of the Book of Mormon–are at once thought provoking, articulate, and most importantly, they are evidentiary of Joseph's prophetic calling.  Elder Maxwell wrote:

God gave to mankind through a young man, Joseph Smith, the ultimate and immense truths of the gospel in this, the last dispensation. This young man who had no social status to protect, no private theology already worked out for God to endorse, and who had loving and listening parents, could report that theophany honestly and cling tenaciously to the truth of that first vision in the midst of great persecution. A sophisticated man who had community status to protect and his own ideas about what kind of religion the world needed–even though a good man–would have been sorely tempted to have traded off truth for the praise of the world. Paul reminded us that "the friendship of the world is enmity with God. . . ." (James 4:4.) Could any but a humble non-linguist have gone to the Hill Cumorah and, under the direction of an angel, be shown ancient records and be told, so boldly, that he, personally, would be the unlettered instrument in translating these for the benefit of all mankind, and still have believed all that–and helped such a marvel come to pass without wanting somehow to possess the plates rather than share their wisdom or to add his own mortal touches and flourishes to the manuscript?

In relation to his calling, Joseph Smith no doubt stood much like Enoch and Moses: overwhelmed that he had been chosen, but, nevertheless, humbly determined to do just what was asked of him. To the humble, the simpleness and the easiness of the way are glad realities; to the crowded, ego-filled minds of proud men, the sudden sunlight from a spiritual sunrise is irritating rather than awesome, and causes them to blink rather than to stare in reverent awe.(2)

The insight that the most important truths in the universe were entrusted to a 14-17-year-old New York farm boy with the responsibility to get them published and disseminated world-wide–along with acquiring the necessary economic resources, creating an organization, and initiating a long-term missionary effort implied by that initial responsibility to pull it off–boggles the thoughtful mind. That he accomplished that and so much, much more in the quarter century to follow, borders on the incredible.  I freely admit that I “stare in reverent awe.”  Thank you Elder Maxwell!

Let’s think together again, soon.

Notes:

1.  Neal A. Maxwell, That My Family Should Partake, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1974, 81-2.

2.  Ibid, 82.

Are We An “Age Beyond Wonder”?©

In 1977 a lightning bolt struck part of the electrical grid of the northeastern United States and New York City experienced a blackout. The fact that many New Yorkers took to looting, pillaging and burning out neighborhood merchants and complained that “mere nature” was allowed to disrupt technology was the occasion for an essay by one of America’s most brilliant pundits–George F. Will.  He considered that the  “extinguishing [of] street lights [was] enough to crack the thin crust of civilization in whole neighborhoods” as American barbarism. From the perspective of four decades, that perspective seems to have only deepened.

But the bulk of Will’s essay that week was devoted to the second issue–the irritation that “mere nature” inconveniently disrupted technology. Below are several excerpts which argue that this is evidence that a mature American society had lost its sense of awe and wonder. What do you think?  Has the computer age and the “age of Hubble” increased the sense of awe and wonder of Americans, or are they just more examples of Will’s argument?

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What most distinguishes modern people is that they have so slight a sense of awe about the world around them. ... [M]odern people should consider that, in a sense, they take more things on faith than did a thirteenth-century peasant tilling the fields in the shadow of Chartres.

When the peasant wanted light, he built a fire from wood he gathered. Modern people flip switches, trusting that someone, somewhere, has done something that will let there be light. How many switch-flippers can say what really happens, in the flux of electrons, when a generator generates?

The most advance form of travel for the peasant was a sailing ship or a wagon: the mechanisms were visible and understandable. This year forty-one million passengers will pass through Chicago’s O’Hare airport, obedient to disembodied voices, electronically amplified, telling them to get into cylindrical membranes of aluminum that will be hurled by strange engines through the upper atmosphere. The passengers will not understand, and will be content not to understand, how any of it really works. And we think the fourteenth century was an age of faith.

Perhaps ours is the strangest age.  It is an age without a sense of the strangeness of things.   ...

The human race has grown up and lost its capacity for wonder. This is not because people understand their everyday world better than people did in earlier ages. Today people understand less and less of the social and scientific systems on which they depend more and more. Alas, growing up usually means growing immune to astonishment.(1)

Let’s think together again, soon.

Notes:

1.  George F. Will, The Pursuit of Happiness, and Other Sobering Thoughts, New York: Harper & Row, 1978, 109-11, emphasis added.

Why Fruits Should Be An Indispensable Part Of Your Diet?

Are you a fruit person? Well, you better be – these blooms from the plant world are an indispensable part of our diet and without a good serving of them, we could land up in big trouble over time.

Plus, having a bowl of fruits every day is its own incentive – because let’s be honest here, it is a lot tastier than your veggies. But why are these plant material a crucial part of a healthy lifestyle, even according to digestive specialists garner NC? If you want to find out, then keep reading –

1.It is our source of antioxidants

Antioxidants are extremely important in tackling the free radicals in our body that would otherwise have oxidized and become toxic for our system. Fruits like blueberries and tomatoes are a great source of this nutrient and keeps our body detoxed.

In today’s modern world, with so much of pollution and contamination all around, it is pretty tough to neutralize these free radicals in our body and fruits provide the best alternative.

2.Fruits are a great source of dietary fiber

You obviously know the importance of dietary fiber in your nutrition plan. Not only does it help waste pass down your GI tract, but also, it keeps your stool soft and easy, preventing problems like hemorrhoids.

Try some apples, bananas, and oranges to have a good experience every morning. And you also get so much more out of it than just dietary fiber – nutrients like potassium, vitamin C and the likes.

3.Low Calories and lots of nutrients

If you are on a diet, then having more fruits makes a lot of sense. This food group keeps you full for a long time, gives you plenty of energy in the form of complex sugars, keeps your digestive system calm and light, and its low in calories.

So, controlling your overall calorie intake and completing all your macro and micro goals becomes so much easier with fruits – it is basically a dieters paradise! 

These are the 3 reasons why fruits are absolutely indispensable when it comes to a balanced diet and even gastroenterology specialists Dunn cannot disagree! So, don’t forget to include them in your diet and you are good to go!

Turmeric: for Arthritis (Joint Pain)

The benefits of using turmeric for arthritis.

1. Turmeric is an ancient spice which has been used for over 4000 years In Asia to treat all kinds of bodily infections, diseases and ailments.

This is usually purchased in a yellow powdered form of the root of the turmeric plant.

2. Arthritis is a common problem where inflammation begins to cause problems for the muscles and joints around the body. This can be extremely painful, but the good news is that turmeric can help

3. Turmeric was traditionally used in ancient Chinese and Indian Ayruvedic medicine to treat arthritis because of the wonderful active compound it contains called curcumin.

4. The curcumin with turmeric is an extremely powerful natural medicine and works to reduce inflammation throughout the body, including the muscles and joints.

5. Using turmeric powder either in a glass of water every day, or sprinkled over foods can have a dramatic effect on reducing pain from Osteoarthritis and Rheumatoid Arthritis. If you do not like the taste, you can purchase turmeric capsules and take 3 times per day. 

6. Turmeric has a cleansing effect on the entire body and works to destroy harmful pathogens and free radicals. This effectively enhances the health of the internal organs, especially the pancreas.

7. Turmeric can be drank in the form of a tea, added to curries, used as a marinate for meats and is absolutely delicious.

8. This can work a lot better than anti-inflammatory drugs as it is completely natural and has less of a stressful impact on the body. 

9. To learn more about arthritis, digestion and healthy spices, be sure to see our channel. 

10. Turmeric also has a great range of other health benefits, for the heart and overall body. These are discussed in our other video entitled "Turmeric Water: Everyday".  Be sure to see this to learn more.

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Calendula Flower: Benefits & Uses

The health benefits and uses of calendula flower. 

1. The calendula flower comes from the marigold family and has some fantastic health benefits for the human body.

2. These beautifully yellow/orange flowers are grown all over the world and are very easy to find.

3. Calendula flowers are often used to make herbal teas, in either fresh or dried form. These have a soothing effect on the body and can heal internal tissues.

4. Calendula flower tea works particularly well at lowering inflammation within the mucus membranes. The lungs, throat and digestive system are soothed when drinking this often.

5. The flowers themselves can be mashed into a paste and applied to the skin to treat many painful problems, such as Eczema, insect stings and skin irritation.

6. They also have a cooling effect on sunburnt skin and hydrate cracked and dry sore nipples for nursing mothers.

7. Many ancient cultures used these flowers in forms of traditional medicine, especially for healing the digestive tract. 

8. It was used primarily to cleanse and detoxify the liver and gallbladder, as it contains healthy carotenoids which work as internal healers.

9. During the American Civil War, calendula flowers were used on open wounds on the battlefields as they are antiseptic and prevent infection. They also help to stop the bleeding, and promote fast healing.

10. The yellow and orange pigment within the flowers has been used to make traditional dyes for fabrics for thousands of years. 

11. Calendula Oil can be made easily at home by soaking some freshly picked flowers in olive oil for 1 week. This oil can be topically applied to the skin to treat problems.

12. In herbal medicine calendula oil has been used on patients with radiation dermatitis, with positive effects on healing the skin. 

13. These flowers are considered sacred in India and have been used to decorate the statues of Hindu deities since early times.

14. Even the Romans and Greeks used golden calendula flowers in all kinds of rituals and ceremonies for their beauty.

15. You can also purchase calendula cream, dried calendula, liquid calendula extract or capsules. 

16. To learn more about herbal remedies using flowers, leaves and other natural sources, please see our other videos. 

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Xylitol: Benefits & Uses

The health benefits and uses of Xylitol

1. Xylitol is an alternative sweetener which tastes very similar to sugar without the harmful effects.

2. This white granulated powder is becoming very popular nowadays as is perfect to use when trying to lose weight. 

Insulin, the fat storing hormone is usually triggered when we eat sugar. However xylitol does not have this effect and is also perfect for those with diabetes.

3. It can be used in baking with other low glycaemic foods such as almond flour to make healthy cakes, breads, biscuits, pastries and pancakes.

4. Xylitol powder is considered a "healthy sugar alcohol" and is made naturally from the fibrous parts of plants such as the wood of birch trees and other natural sources.

5. It is recommended by many dentists as it has the ability to regulate the Ph in the mouth. This helps to prevent plaque from sticking to the teeth.

  

Cavity causing bacteria in the mouth does not use xylitol for fuel, as it does sugar. This protects you from cavities in the long term.

6. Xylitol also has antiviral and antibacterial effects which can prevent ear infections, especially in children. 

7. Many people have also reported having better sinus health as xylitol can speed up the healing process and prevent bacteria from being fed. 

8. Cut out the sugar and try alternative sweeteners such as this for better overall health in the body and longevity. Sugar is the enemy for the human body, and is not needed at all in a healthy lifestyle.

9. We love use to use xylitol as a sweetener in herbal teas, cakes, and in anything that traditional sugar would have been used in. It has an extremely similar taste with no aftertaste at all.

10. In some people, xylitol can make you use the toilet more often. If this is the case be sure to try erythritol or stevia to see which works best for you.

11. If you are on a ketogenic diet, then we highly recommend this sweetener as It does not cause you to fall out of ketosis. Fat burning will continue, as long as carbohydrates are kept below 20g net.

12. To learn more about alternative sweeteners such as this, please see our other videos.

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Why I Believe: Evidence Fifty-Six: Joseph Smith Claims a Completely New Use for the Urim and Thummim©

101 Reasons Why I Believe Joseph Smith Was a Prophet of God:

Evidence Fifty-Six:

Joseph Smith Claims a Completely New Use for the Urim and Thummim© 

The Old Testament speaks of an interesting tool associated with revelation–the Urim and Thummim.  Its history is shrouded in mystery. Though there are a number of verses in the Bible which speak of this instrument, biblical scholars have a difficult time sorting out the details of both its purpose and how it worked.(1) Some passages make it sound like it was used to cast lots and gain information to “yes” and “no” questions. It seems to be largely a tool used by the High Priest rather than the prophets.

Interestingly a tool by the same name also appears in the Book of Mormon, but there it is the tool of prophets, and Aaronic High Priests play no significant role in the Book of Mormon narrative. Moreover, the Book of Mormon associates these instruments with interpreting and/or translating ancient records. Ammon called them interpreters (Mos. 8:13) as did Alma (Al. 37:21) and Moroni (Eth. 4:5). In the Book of Mormon they were originally given to the brother of Jared who sealed them up with his record as a means of translating it in the future. (Eth. 3:22-24) King Mosiah possessed a Urim and Thummim but its origin was not given in the text.(Mosiah 28:11-13).  Mormon described them and said they were “prepared from the beginning, and were handed down from generation to generation, for the purpose of interpreting languages....”(Mos. 28:13-15) Ammon taught that the individuals allowed to use them were called “seers.” (Mos. 8:13)

For my purposes today, the focus is on a much later period–the time of the Restoration. The angel Moroni appeared to Joseph Smith on the night of September 21-22, 1823, (195 yesrs ago) and in the course of instructing him about the plates of the Book of Mormon he also told him of the Urim and Thummim and commanded him that these items should not be shown to others. (JS-H 1:42) Later the next day when he went to the hill Cumorah and found the box where the plates were hidden, he also saw the Urim and Thummim for the first time. (JS-H 1:52) He obtained the plates and the Urim and Thummim four years later and they were used for a time to translate the sacred record. According to Joseph’s mother, Joseph also used them to receive visions. A number of the revelations in the early D&C were given through the Urim and Thummim.

What interests me about all of this relative to Joseph Smith is a brief passage I recently re-read from LeGrand Richards. I have learned many times over, the benefit of going back to re-read earlier documents and sources. With the perspective of more time and experience, they often have a way of calling attention to certain things that one has overlooked when he first read them, not appreciating the insight contained therein. That was the case with the following from Elder Richards’ Marvelous Work and a Wonder which I read during my first year of college just prior to my mission.  He wrote:

Would it be unfair to ask what the spiritual leaders of Joseph Smith’s day knew about the Urim and Thummim? Would Joseph Smith, of himself, have thought of claiming that he translated the Book of Mormon with the assistance of the Urim and Thummim?(2)

The question of Elder Richards is even more challenging when we remind ourselves that there is nothing in the Bible which even hints at using the Urim and Thummim to translate ancient documents! This was a whole new purpose for them. So, his question merits repeating “Would Joseph Smith, [under those circumstances] of himself, have thought of claiming that he translated the Book of Mormon with the assistance of the Urim and Thummim?” I guess it is possible if you are willing to attribute to him another example of creative genius–among a very large constellation of such examples–if he were to have written the book out of his own mind. But, don’t you also have to ask, wouldn’t he anticipate that students of the Bible would challenge this heretofore unknown use of the Urim and Thummim and laugh him out of town? How would he defend that? 

As much as I am willing to grant him religious genius, there are other factors that convince me that he did not make up either the Book of Mormon or the story of the Restoration of the gospel and the Church of Jesus Christ to the earth. I am grateful for this small, but important question. It is easy for me to answer in the negative. It becomes one more small bit of evidence that Joseph Smith was a prophet of God, operating on a completely unexpected level and in a completely unexpected, but not illogical way.

Let’s think together again, soon

Notes:

1.  For a detailed overview of these issues up to that time, see James Hastings, A Dictionary of the Bible, 5 vols, Peabody, MA: Hendrickson, 1988, 4:838-41.  Originally published between 1898 and 1902.

2. LeGrand Richards, A Marvelous Work and a Wonder, 72-73.

Why It Is Important To Check Up With a Gi Specialist?

Gastrointestinal health has long been associated with tons of other problems and getting your gut in track could mean a long and healthy life. However, in today’s busy world, checking up with a doctor every now and then, or when something irritates us has gone at the back our minds. 

Today, whenever we have a serious problem that ails us, we just pop a few over the counter pills and procrastinate the healing for another day. This blog is a wake up call against that and here are the main reasons why you should not delay your appointment with a GI specialist North Carolina anymore!

1.You could be a ticking time bomb

Many of the most common gastrointestinal diseases can be a ticking time bomb, waiting to shift gears from benign to malignant within weeks. Keeping your doctor away is not a good idea and you might develop something fatal without having any idea. 

Any chronic gastrointestinal tendencies should be checked with immediately to ward off these dangers and cancel out the risk of cancer. Living a long life is what all of us deserve and these kind of irresponsible behaviors can be a thorn in yours. 

2.It increases your body’s overall performance

If we were a car, then our GI tract would be the engine that burns fuel and powers the rest of our parts. In that case, a rusty engine can only do so much and you might see your performance dropping, if you have an unhealthy gut. 

In case you are experiencing things like nausea, lethargy, vomiting tendencies, or lack of appetite, go check with a GI specialist Dunn immediately! These kind of symptoms are the most common in gut problems and you should avoid these markers at any cost and run the engine at top horsepower. 

3.It will help your mood  

It is clinically proven that gut health is directly related to your overall mood and mental well being. Both these things work in direct proportions, and hampering one could mean hampering the other. This is why when you have gut problem, you should immediately get in touch with a GI doctor who will be able to neutralize this issue for the better and escalate your mood. 

These are the 3 reasons why you should check with your GI specialist every now and then and not delay these things one bit. When it comes down to your well-being, always make it priority number one and a long and fulfilling life will follow. 

Why I Believe: Evidence Fifty-Five: The Book of Mormon and the Psychological Impact of Gross Immorality Upon Individuals and Society”©

101 Reasons Why I Believe Joseph Smith was a Prophet.

Evidence Fifty-Five:

The Book of Mormon and the Psychological Impact of 

Gross Immorality Upon Individuals and Society” 

Living in a sex-saturated society, I have often contemplated the wisdom of a passage in the Book of Mormon. The prophet Jacob, Nephi’s younger brother, in an attempt to magnify his office (Jac. 2:2), calls the people together to speak to them. Jacob is grieved, he tells them, because they “are beginning to labor in sin”(2:5), even a “very abominable” sin. He is further grieved because of “the wickedness of their hearts.”(2:6.) He knows his people have come to hear “the word which healeth the wounded soul”(2:8), but he is under “strict command” to speak of their wickedness.(2:10).  He begins with a discussion of the sins of pride, thinking they are better than others, and their serious misuse of their prosperity and wealth, which should be used with the “intent to do good–to clothe the naked, and to feed the hungry, and to liberate the captive, and administer relief to the sick and afflicted.”(2:19)

But he has yet more on his mind– “grosser crimes” as he calls them.(2:22-23) They have justified and excused themselves of their “whoredoms”–including taking additional wives or concubines, by perverting scriptures written about David and Solomon. He went on to accuse them of being more wicked than the Lamanites, who kept the commandments concerning these things  given them by their father Lehi.(2:34) Then he utters this remarkable passage, of which there is no equal in the Bible:

Ye have broken the hearts of your tender wives, and lost the confidence of your children, because of your bad examples before them; and the sobbings of their hearts ascend up to God against you.  And because of the strictness of the word of God, which cometh down against you, many hearts died, pierced with deep wounds. (Jac. 2:35)

This passage strikes me as not only extremely important for our day; it also raises an interesting question about the author of the passage, especially the last phrase, “many hearts died, pierced with deep wounds.” It is common among Joseph’s critics to accuse him of possessing excessive sexual libido and a deficient character which led him into gross immorality. If he was so possessed, I ask where the sensitivity expressed in this passage came from? They would say it came from his own hypocritical heart. Having devoted myself for several years to produce an early study of his plural marriages, I do not believe it for a moment. Moreover, I have to ask, “What events may have transpired in his family life or near environment before he was the age of twenty-five, when this book was published, which may have so sensitized him? This, of course, is asked, from the critic’s view that Joseph Smith was the author of the Book of Mormon. But, I don’t believe that for a moment either. Nevertheless, I am not aware of any serious infidelity within Joseph’s immediate family which would have produced the understanding and deep feeling expressed in Jacob’s statement, and as far as I know we have no indication from him that any like event in his immediate society effected him deeply.

When one considers Jacob’s words without preconceptions and prejudice, the depth and poignancy of the psychological insight is staggering. Was Joseph Smith in and of himself, at age twenty-five, in possession of such wisdom?  I wonder, and as much as I respect him, I doubt. Here is what Neal A. Maxwell has written about the Jacob pericope:

Clearly there are psychological scars left in the wake of unchastity, however sophisticated the indulgent society may believe itself to be. Unchastity can cause a kind of inner death, resulting in bitterness, emptiness, or in equally disabling and profound passivity. Children also pay a price: witness what might be called the Sayonara syndrome—the resentment of thousands of young Japanese men and women now coming of age who were fathered by American serviceman and were abandoned, cruelly stranded between two cultures. At least the Lieutenant Pinkerton in Puccini's Madame Butterfly had to face the consequence of his abandonment of Cho-Cho San.(1)

I am sure much, much more could be said about the negative psychological as well as social and cultural impact gross immorality produces on the individual, family, and society. Personally, when I consider this brief but wonderfully profound episodic teaching, I stand in awe that the Book of Mormon which is literally filled with such gems, was produced by a relatively unlettered farm boy in back woods New York in 1830. To me it speaks of the greatness of the book and the divine inspiration which rested upon the boy-man who translated it by the gift and power of God. It is one more small evidence which encourages me to believe he was a prophet of God.

Let’s think together again, soon.

Notes:

1.  Neal A. Maxwell, A Time to Choose, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1975, 60.

Elder Maxwell on the Critical Importance of the Home and Family to the Individual and Society

Below is a wonderful outline of the vital and critical importance of the home and family to not only the individuals in the family, but to society as a whole.  Unfortunately, as he mentions below, this is not a subject which garners much attention in the public square.  Yet, it should, because, as he so persuasively points out, the home is the seat of the solution to most of the ills which plague modern society.  “The home,” he asserts, “lies at the headwaters of the stream of civilization,” and should receive receive the care and emphasis it merits.  There is much, much more, but it is best read in his own eloquent, thought provoking, and prophetic words.

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Our best opportunity to develop discipleship is in the home, including the skills needed for communication. The family is the institution about which few people talk, and about which little is done in America. Yet we continue to use compensatory educational, economic, governmental, and political programs to solve or treat problems that are actually rooted in the home. Even though these efforts are sincere and needed, they will never deal fully with the problem of an unloved child who has not learned discipline or work, and the resultant tragedy which so often occurs.

The American home needs help badly. The pressing need for effectiveness in solving human problems will turn our attention, finally, in America, to the home as an institution. It is there that we most often learn about love, trust, self-discipline, and work. Our society rests on "obedience to the unenforceable"—a special kind of self-discipline—and this is best taught in the home. In this sense, our roles as fathers and mothers are more crucial than our public roles, for "no other success can compensate for failure in the home." ...

Concentrating on the quality of life in the home is, ultimately, the best way to raise the quality of life in society. A concern for justice in the home—experienced and discussed—could do much to assure concern for the underprivileged. This could result in wise legislation or even make legislation unnecessary. One of the best ways to prepare to replicate love, trust, discipline, and concern is for children to experience them, to know their fruits, and to refuse to be satisfied with a world devoid of such qualities.

Failure in the home clearly calls for compensatory institutions, but the home lies at the headwaters of the stream of civilization, and we must keep it happy and pure. When the home fails or is polluted, we must, of course, support "treatment" efforts downstream. But we must not become so fascinated with the filtering operation that we ignore prevention and desert our post at the headwaters. Building a happy home may not seem to have the immediate human impact of counseling in a juvenile detention center. Both are necessary, but the emphasis should fall on the home if we wish to prevent massive misery.

So far as contemporary American society is concerned, it is difficult to conceive of any issues around which there could be such profound separation as that which now exists around the role and mission of the home and family. The current indifference toward the home includes such inaccurate assertions as:

—The family is no longer vital because it is not an effective economic unit.

—The family is irrelevant because one human being cannot really meet the needs of another. This is especially true in a situation in which authority is vested in imperfect individuals such as parents who often seek to meet their needs, not those of their children.

—The family and marriage are not so crucial because we must get used to ever-changing, temporary relationships with other humans, rather than those which make continuing demands of us, such as the family.

It seems peculiar that advocates of family change become upset with some of us because we are not enthralled with their new labels for old, and unwise, practices. The anti-family proponents have simply relabeled sexual freedom as a chance for meaningful relationships, which is just a cover for fornication or adultery. Rhetoric seems to cover the need for real reform.

It is also odd that a culture which has reached a plague level of alienation would have us cut away the final moorings of the family, and that a society in danger of anarchy should seek to depose one last source of authority—parents. Our society pleads for more outer controls to compensate for our unwillingness to discipline ourselves, yet attacks the home where there is still the best chance to learn self-control.

Where can one better develop his capacity to love while he is being loved unconditionally, than in family life?

The best place for procreation is still the family which can offer a child love and a sense of belonging. We have enough data to tell us about the extra perils of children born out of wedlock, who never know their father.

The home is still one of the best places to learn the importance of work. Gibran said that "work is love made visible," and the interplay of love and work learned in a family can affect one's whole lifestyle and the quality of his subsequent service to mankind.

The best place to struggle with our need to establish a balance between freedom and order is with those who can help us with our failures—the family. It is the best place to acquire beliefs and values with which to cope with life, just as a home is the best place for sanctuary and renewal.

A committed member of the Church must understand the implications of his beliefs with regard to the home. This different commitment will mean, among many things, knowing that—

—the home is so crucial that it will be the source of our greatest failures as well as our greatest joys.

—the home is one place that will press us to practice every major Gospel principle, not just a few as may be the case in some fleeting and temporary relationships.

—the pressures of life in a family will mean we shall be known as we are, that our frailties will be exposed and, hopefully, we shall then correct them.

—the affection and thoughtfulness required in the home is no abstract exercise in love. It is real. It is no mere rhetoric concerning some distant human cause. It is an encounter with raw selfishness, with the need for civility, of taking turns, of being hurt and yet forgiving, of being at the mercy of others' moods and yet understanding why we sometimes inflict pain on each other.

—family life is a constant challenge, not a periodic performance we can render on a stage and run for the privacy of a dressing room to be alone with ourselves. The home gives us a great chance to align our public and private behavior, to reduce the hypocrisy in our lives—to be more congruent with Christ.

Committing oneself to the unglamorous demands of discipleship in family life is not a task for those who wish to run away, nor for those whose human causes are chosen precisely because the cause is distant and makes no real demands of them. It is the same for all the basic teachings of Jesus which constitute that solitary path to salvation.(1)

Let's think together again, soon.

Notes:  

1.  Neal A. Maxwell, A Time to Choose, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1975, 84-88.